Join My San Diego #GirlGang!

Hey Beauties!

I am especially excited as I write this post! I was able to attend the Healthy is the New Skinny Re-Model Me Event over the weekend, and I left completely re-motivated and re-inspired!

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Katie H. Willcox is not only a beautiful model, but a genuinely beautiful person. My weekend started out with a photo shoot in adorable HNS gear, and Katie herself was walking me through my poses. She is so easy to be around (we had a thrilling conversation about the merits of fans and how pretty you feel with one in your hair), and really, really good at what she does! After we were done in front of the camera, she gave me a hug and thanked me for being there!

Sunday, I was able to attend the workshop portion of the event, and see her newest presentation about media, and how it manipulates us (especially women), into thinking that we NEED these products to be of value. I like to think of myself as a pretty self-aware individual. I see a lot of the tactics in the media and resist them for the most part. But she shared things that really opened up my eyes. More importantly, she helped confirm that my purpose in life is to be more like her.

I want to not only inspire girls and women around me, but I want to embrace them and help them see their beauty goes so far beyond any product that can be marketed to them!

I was able to talk to Katie after the event, and learned about the opportunity to start my own #GirlGang group here in San Diego. I’d love to be able to attend her events with her group in Los Angeles….but I’m already spread so thin with both jobs and social responsibilities I’m already lacking in.

So instead, I created a Facebook group with some of the most beautiful, intelligent, and driven women I know in my city and invited them to use it as a forum to support and uplift one another. Moreso, it’s a chance for us to all come together and participate in healthy actvities…hiking, walking, yoga, aerobics, dance, healthy cooking classes…the list goes on! And even more than that, it gives us all the opportunity to maybe find someone who wants to be our partner in health (because we all know how hard that can be)! I want to meet up once a month and do a self-love exercise, and a healthy activity. Spend some time with each other, for ourselves, and operate on self love together!

If you’re in the San Diego area, I humbly (and really enthusiastically) invite you to join the Facebook group!

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The group kick-off mixer is in the works. All updates will be through the Facebook group exclusively, and potentially via meetup.com once I see what the actual participation looks like!

You’ll see me on social media using the hashtag #GirlGang. Join the movement, no matter where you live! #GirlGang is about female solidarity in every corner of the world!

If you’re local, go a step further and use the code #GirlGangSD so I can share your healthy posts!

I am really hoping to get together an amazing group of people to share in this experience and enlightening with me. I am also looking for professionals/students willing to contribute their time to share with the group. Donations can be arranged!

I am so excited to start this new venture/journey!

Stay tuned for updates!

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#LoveYoSelf

*For the month of April, I’ll be participating in the WordPress Writing 101 “challenge” and doing posts based on prompts. This is #1, a 20 minute free write.*

self love

I’ll admit, I had a hard time figuring out what to title this post.

I am dedicated to making people love themselves entirely. Good, bad, “ugly,” and all! I think I am most passionate about this because as I get older, and experience more of all the bizarre, amazing, and ridiculous parts of life, I have learned that I owe it to me to be positively, absolutely, and madly in love with myself.

It’s been a journey, to say the least.

I started out pretending not to care what people thought. Pretending that their mean words, loud whispers, and cruel jokes didn’t bother me. Telling myself that even though I knew that they were right, I wouldn’t let them ever know I believed anything they said.

But then, a funny thing happened…it all became so….real.

A series of events, from my first legit to heartbreak, to breaking my first heart….being and my highest weight, and being the smallest I’d ever been….I found that there is so much more to life than focusing on what anyone else has to say about my life, how I live it, and how I decide to look while I do.

When I really think about it, I’ve always had a handful of amazing friends. I’ve always been complimented for my smile, my intelligence, and my funny facial expressions while I tell stories(although, I tend to think the stories are funnier, if I do say so myself!), and sometimes I’m even acknowledged as a half decent person!

I’d rather love myself for my good parts, versus the bad others choose to see when they merely look at me for the first time. In fact, I think it says more about them, than me.

And so, I set out to show myself that I didn’t have to fake it anymore. No more pretending. It was time to acknowledge that I AM awesome. And I am only human, but I’m not a crappy human, and that’s enough for me.

So, I figured maybe I’d share some of the ways I do this-honor myself, love myself, and remind myself that at the end of the day….if I’m going to be my toughest critic, I am going to be my biggest cheerleader, too!

Here’s what came to mind:

1. Write a list of 10 things you love/appreciate about yourself, or your life, that don’t involve your weight or flaws.Focus on the positive. Because after all, you’re awesome!

2. Focus on goals that take you out of your comfort zone and create experiences that you can treasure forever (like with my “27 Things for My 27th Year” project).

3. Remind yourself of all that your body can do. I went ziplining once. Also, I recently did a 15K with a friend, and have plans to go skydiving before my next birthday. Ask the old pretending Sondra if she ever would have registered for a run. On purpose. HA!

4. Spend some quality time with yourself. You carve out time for everyone that’s important to you. Block your schedule and go to a matinee alone, take a spa day, splurge on the more expensive pedicure and read gossip magazines…whatever makes you happy….try it solo and connect with yourself.

5. Surround yourself with positive people. Life is way too short for people who never have anything nice/helpful/supportive to say. It took me WAY too long to realize I don’t need to feel obligated to deal with it.

6. Distance yourself from exhausting people, too. Negativity isn’t the only thing that can drain you and affect your stress level or mood. People who ask for the same advice and never take it; people who lean on you to solve their problems; people who depend on you for your unwavering loyalty but never return the favor? You don’t need them around all the time, either. They’ll be fine without you. Trust me on this!

7. Remember that true beauty is a state of mind. No cream, serum, lip gloss, eyelash extensions, yoga pants, or diet regimen can make you worthy of adjectives like “compassionate,” “kind,” “thoughtful,” or “amazing.” Don’t limit your beauty to materialistic and aesthetic features. Kate Spade can’t sell you a beautiful soul (ahem, but if your awesome mom was in town for a week and bought you a pretty one with watercolor lemons all over it? SCORE. Thanks, mom!).

8. Use the time and energy you’d normally spend criticizing facets of your life to help others. Your weight, your grades, your features, your progress towards your future…it may never measure up to your high expectations. But the time you spent helping others will remind you of all you have, all you have done, and all the good there can be in the world.

9. Be mindful of the messages all around you. The “perfect” Victoria’s Secret bikini body, the idea that flat abs and blonde hair are the only tools you need to succeed. These messages are subtly (and sometimes not so subtly) permeating our lives with ideals that aren’t generally achievable if you’ve got a job, an education to pursue, and/or family obligations. Realize that you’re more than what the magazines say you can buy, and know your worth lies in the impact you make-not whether or not you have a 4 pack and strappy bathing suit.

10. Ask yourself, “Why do I feel like I have to be somebody else?” There are so many people who love you without all the frills. My aunt sat me down when I was 15 or 16 and asked me why I didn’t feel like I could be myself. I think I cried every night for a week, knowing that my secret Little Debbie snacks and wrappers under my bed had been discovered. I grew up with my dad restricting my food intake and criticizing my weight when we had to shop in the women’s section at stores. I felt like wanting snacks made me uglier, and bad. That question has never left me. It helped me get to where I am today. And whether I am making kale chips, or eating donuts, I know that those I surround myself with aren’t paying attention to my plate. They love ME. The girl behind the plate.

These are just some of the ways I remind myself everyday that I am more than a size on a tag, or a self-proclaimed Body-Positive Activist.

Spend a little extra time loving yourself here and there, and I promise it becomes second nature. But learn from my experience, and make it genuine from the beginning. Because you and I are worth every praise, every calorie, and every champagne toast.

We are amazing, beautiful, inspiring, and brilliant.

And there is no measure of body weight or material items that could possibly calculate the extent of it.

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My finishing stats! Because that, friends, is what it's all about: FINISHING.

#19 The Hot Chocolate 15K [#27ThingsforMY27thYear]

If you’ve been following SeeSondraSlim, you know my big mission these days is knocking 27 tasks off a list I created to commemorate my 27th year on Planet Earth.

In order to achieve this, obviously I have to do at least two things a month (sometimes 3) from this most auspicious list!

March 7th, the list kicked off with my Sunrise Hike up Cowles Mountain, and this today, I’ve officially completed #19: The Hot Chocolate 15K. I’m a little terrified admittedly. I have completed a few 5K’s so far, but never anything longer. However, if you’re familiar with this particular race, you know there is historically always an adorable hoodie and a pot of melted chocolate for you at the finish line. Bonus: 15K racers got an awesome medal that looks like a partially wrapped chocolate bar!

Photo Credit: Hot Chocolate Run San Diego

Photo Credit: Hot Chocolate Run San Diego

I was really fortunate to have two amazing ladies with me to cross the finish line! I love you, Ashley and Kalyca!

I set out knowing that this would be tougher for me, being that I’m more of a “stretch yourself into awkward positions for exercise” type of girl, but I am proud to say that we killed that course, even if we weren’t the fastest or most athletic group out there!

Turns out, I finished in 2:31:13….not bad for walking a LOT of it, and all those Downtown SD hills!

I got to the finish line, and learned they were OUT of medals.

Yeah, you read that right. One of the major reasons I went from doing comfy 5K runs was to get a damn medal! And nooooo. I get there, and there are like 4 conflicting stories as to why there isn’t one for me.

Fortunately, one competent event facilitator was able to tell me that there was a list we could add our names to, and they’ll be mailed to us. So, that’s why there is no blackboard photo this time. But, I still have some good ones:

Day before the race, sharing my swag and outfit plans on Instagram @SeeSondraSlimmer

Day before the race, sharing my swag and outfit plans on Instagram @SeeSondraSlimmer

Past the finish line with Kalyca! WE DID IT!

Past the finish line with Kalyca! WE DID IT!

A surprise GIANT card and roses from the best boyfriend ever when I got home!

A surprise GIANT card and roses from the best boyfriend ever when I got home!

My finishing stats! Because that, friends, is what it's all about: FINISHING.

My finishing stats! Because that, friends, is what it’s all about: FINISHING.

Unfortunately, I didn’t find a photo of myself on my stats page, which is what held up this post so long. However, you can watch this awesome video of me crossing the finish line!

Moral of the story? You can accomplish anything. If I can do a 15K, and still walk the entire week after, it’s not hard. LOL.

Set some goals that you never thought you could achieve before. Go ahead and surprise yourself….it’s worth every bit of effort, I promise!

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#BeYourOwnSupermodel

It is no secret that there are two things I hold in high regard: Body Positivity, and The Boudoir Divas (among others….but these stay at the top of the list)!

The Divas are holding a contest with the amazing hashtag movement: #BeYourOwnSupermodel, and it’s truly a beautiful thing! Take a moment and check out their latest blog post with more info about the movement and what inspired them (literally, I got chills and super emotional reading it).

I really love that these two favorites consistently go hand in hand, and I am REALLY excited for their new campaign/contest! I wish all those who choose to enter the best of luck-this prize is out of this world, and I will personally and candidly envy the winner!

Photo Credit: The Boudoir Divas

Photo Credit: The Boudoir Divas

Here’s how it works:

“BE YOUR OWN SUPERMODEL” MOVEMENT AND CONTEST #beyourownsupermodel by @theboudoirdivas

We believe every woman should own her own story and celebrate who she is right now. We are starting this contest to inspire women to BE YOUR OWN SUPERMODEL!  Glamourous pictures are a way to treat yourself, to say “I am worth it.” But the most important thing is reminding yourself every day that you are your own supermodel.

Be entered to win  a 2 production photo shoot with 5×7 book with hair and make-up!! ($1560 value)!

TO ENTER THE CONTEST:
*Take a photo and hashtag #beyourownsupermodel and tag us on social media. It’s that simple!

*Every time you post on social medial you will be ENTERED TO WIN a $1060 value photo shoot. Hair and make-up included by @Shelby_McElroy  www.makeupbyshelby.com !

*Tag your friends who might also want to be a part of it in the comments!

*Contest ends April 15 (we will be doing a drawing & will post the winner here on the blog)

*Photo can be a selfie or anything that shows you embracing yourself and being comfortable in your own skin.

*If we have photographed you, use an image we shot (you can crop if you don’t want it to be too risque) and give us credit, be sure to also hashtag the contest and tag us and you will be entered TWICE by posting any photos that give the Boudoir Divas credit.

How to tag us….
INSTAGRAM: @TheBoudoirDivas
TWITTER: @BoudoirDivas
FACEBOOK: TheBoudoirDivas

Regardless of whether you enter, or even win, remember to carry these words from the Divas with you everyday!

“I am determined to rid my mind of negative thoughts about myself & replace them with words that honor who I am.”

So, it’s time to #BeYourOwnSupermodel! Get out these, and show them how it’s done, beautiful!

I can’t wait to see all the posts!

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#1 Sunrise Hike Up Cowles Mountain #27ThingsforMy27thYear

Hello, everyone!

So, as we discussed in my last post, I will be completing 27 things that I have a) always wanted to do or b) wasn’t sure I wanted to do, but figured I ought to be able to. Number one is officially complete!

We are 9 days into my 27th year on this earth, and I was really excited to complete my sunrise hike with Ashley on Saturday, March 7th!

It started off a little rough. I worked 5 pm to 5 am, got off work and headed straight for the mountain.  My allergies were kicking my butt….so we are climbing a mountain at 5:30 in the cold morning, and my lungs were expanding as if they were outside my body, and I had to stop THREE times on the way up. We’ve done this hike twice before, and I never had this issue!

Nonetheless, when we did stop, we admired the moon behind us, and the little bit of sun peeking out in front of us.

The goal? Get to the top of this mountain before the sun does. And we did! As a matter of fact, I’d venture to say the sun only rose about halfway by the time we got up there.

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We admired it, took photos with our boards (Ashley is doing 29 Things for her 29th Year), and then we enjoyed croissants and mimosas (with pink champagne!) at the top! Also, I could breathe up there, too!

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This experience made me feel strong, it made me feel accomplished….and it made me appreciate the beautiful things around me everyday! I sometimes forget I live in one of the most beautiful states, and cities, in America! You can you see the beach from the mountains! It’s insane!

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Also, fun fact: I wore my new Healthy is the New Skinny tank on the hike, and @HealthyistheNewSkinny shared it on their Instagram! It made my day, and made the experience even more meaningful!

Take the time to appreciate your surroundings!

Take that walk around a beautiful neighborhood, run on the beach, climb a mountain and nearly have an asthma attack (hahaha)! You won’t regret it! I’m up early everyday (I went straight from a 12 hour shift to do this, after all), and never did this before. And now? I cannot WAIT to do it again!

Wishing you love and light, and the creativity to make a list of your own!

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27 Things for My 27th Year!

Another birthday, and a new kind of list!

Inspired by my good friend, Ashley, I decided that I would do 27 things that I’ve been either too scared, too busy, too lazy, or too forgetful to do before I turn 28! I am very grateful that Ashley will b accompanying me on some of these adventures!

I feel that the effort I put into thinking of things to do is a testament to the fact that I’ve been privileged to do so many amazing, wonderful, and new things these last few years. I’m very “Go big, or Go Home,” so I had fun getting ideas and coming up with my own to make my 27th year on this earth more than memorable!

If you’re local and want to join me, let me know! If you know of a place/person/program I can contact to accomplish some of these, please let me know about that, as well!

So, here we go:

27 Things for My 27th Year

  1. Sunrise hike at Cowles Mountain with Ashley!*
  2. Go Skydiving (I am TERRIFIED of heights)!
  3. Create a modeling portfolio (for Natural Models LA and True Models Management submission)
  4. Go to Stagecoach to see Tim McGraw and Miranda Lambert (wear shorts and fringe tops!) OR go see Mariah Carey (aka, The Chanteuse) in Las Vegas!!!
  5. Sunset/Sunrise or Beach Yoga Class
  6. Have a date with myself: Massage, Facial, Shopping, and Dinner…just me!
  7. Take a wine and cheese pairing class at The Cheese Store of San Diego
  8. Have brunch at the Hotel Del Coronado
  9. Volunteer with Urban Angels Soup Kitchen*
  10. Take a spin class
  11. Host a dinner party
  12. Gondola ride in Venice, Italy
  13. Ride a bike (I haven’t since I broke my wrist on one in 10th grade)
  14. Visit the Museum of Tolerance (and Kelly H.) in the City of Angels!
  15. Take a surfing lesson*
  16. “Free Hugs” at Balboa Park*
  17. Thursday Night Throwdown (Line Dance Lessons) at  Moonshine Flats/Incahoots (I WILL learn to line dance)!*
  18. Write a letter to my 35 year old self
  19. Hot Chocolate 15K
  20. Picnic at a National Park (finally use that dang picnic basket I bought in 2010).*
  21. Get the SeeSondraSlim Facebook page to 500 likes!
  22. Learn to play a song on the guitar
  23. Buy Starbucks for strangers
  24. Surprise 5 people when they least expect it (Document on FB/Blog/Instagram)
  25. Book my next International expedition
  26. Be published in a magazine/publication
  27. Bingo Night at a casino

This will surely be a fun journey, and I cannot wait to document it all here on SeeSondraSlim!

Thank you for all the years of support, and for bearing with me as I continue to try and juggle this project along with real life! I adore you all!

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Veggies, Veggies, and More Veggies!

It’s no secret that I am a veggie fan!

I sometimes choose them as my main and only entree, because they are filling, nutrient filled, and DELICIOUS!

I thought to myself, as I roasted a pan of baby squash and a pan of brussels sprouts yesterday, “I should do a post with all my veggie recipes!” Then I realized, “Oh, too bad it’s not an actual measured recipe!”

I’m that girl who just tosses things into the pan with olive oil-I eyeball it! So, I compiled a list of links to some amazing veggie recipes from my friends at Greatist.com, BuzzFeed Food, and others….so you can do it the “right” way.

29 Ways to Eat Vegetables That Are Delicious

Brown Bag Salad Recipes

SkinnyTaste Oven Roasted Cauliflower

Martha Stewart’s Baked Eggplant Parmesan

9 Mouth-Watering Spaghetti Squash Recipes

51 Easy and Healthy Veggie Sides

If you’re interested in what seasonings I do use for dishes like these:

10960733_10204481038520008_1116741649_oI source most of these things from Costco and Trader Joes, FYI.

Kirkland Organic No-Salt Seasoning

Lawrys Garlic Salt

Dorot Frozen Crushed Garlic

Dorot Frozen Basil

Red Pepper Flakes

Extra Virgin Olive Oil

Your favorite balsamic vinegar (toss roasted brussels in it after they’re done, or boil it down to a beautiful reduction to glaze them with-also makes a pretty presentation for company)!

It’s that easy! I hope this gave you some ideas to incorporate more veggies (and healthy deliciousness) into your meals! If you have your own favorite recipes and links, send them my way at SeeSondraSlim@gmail.com, or leave them in the comments! Can’t wait to see what you try!

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Weekly Update 2/23

Hello, lovelies!

Whew! I feel like it’s been a whirlwind of a year….and it’s not even March yet!

Life has been busy (just how I like it), and I am working on some exciting changes to SeeSondraSlim, and life in general!

I think I have FINALLY composed the final draft of my “27 Things to Do in My 27th Year” List, and I am so excited for you to see it when the post goes life this Saturday, Feb. 28th! My actual birthday is this Sunday, March 1st and I am kicking of the very 1st item on the list as soon as I get off at 5 am that morning….and I am so excited to share the experience with those accompanying me, and with YOU!

Otherwise, life has been as thrilling as ever!

Last Tuesday, I was back at The Boudoir Divas as a model for their Boudoir Retreat, and had the pleasure of modeling for 8-9 AMAZING women! It was such a fun group, and I cannot wait to see the shots they got! It is so impressive to me, the work of photographers…but especially that of these boudoir photographers. They have to get not just the lighting, ISO, Exposure (you like how I’m pretending I know what any of that is?) right, but they’re working hard to get you posing in flattering, creative and breathtaking ways at the same time! Also, there is something to be said for boudoir modeling….I was sore until like, Friday! Makes my Yoga Sculpt class look like a picnic! Lol!

In fact, I have already decided that my 28 Things List will include going to Paris with the Divas for their annual trip with photographers/clients. I made a promise to myself recently that I’m going to take the time to see the world….because it’s something I’ve been yearning to do for so very, very long.

For as much as I can give a reason that I can’t do things, I know that I’ve shown myself I can accomplish pretty much anything with a little faith, dedication, positivity, and planning. So…why not the world, literally?

Also, I want to be a bigger advocate for Obesity and Body Positivity!

I applied for the OAC Your Weight Matters 2015 Convention Scholarship (and posted it on the blog, so YOU could, too), and hope to be able to attend the event and get even more out of it than when I was able to attend in 2013!

Otherwise, there’s always something going on over here in my tiny corner of the world-just thought I’d check in, and let you know BIG things are coming!

Happy Monday, and I wish you all a fabulous week!

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OAC YWM15 Scholarship Applications are Now Open!

Obesity Action Coalition (OAC) Now Accepting Applications for the 2015

Your Weight Matters National Convention Scholarship Program

 

Tampa, Fla. – Today, the Obesity Action Coalition (OAC) announced that it is now accepting applications for the 2015 Your Weight Matters National Convention Scholarship Program – a program that helps those in financial need attend the OAC’s ground-breaking educational Convention, set to take place August 13-16 in San Antonio, Texas. This year, the Convention Scholarship Program will continue to award full and partial scholarships to individuals who submit an application by the deadline date – Tuesday, March 31.

Launched in 2014, the Convention Scholarship Program awarded more than $10,000 in scholarships for individuals to attend the 3rd Annual Convention. For 2015, the OAC aims to match and award more scholarships to help individuals attend YWM2015. Applications are evaluated based on three areas of criteria: Statement of Financial Need; Impact of Obesity on Your Life; and Your Intent for Attending the Your Weight Matters Convention.

This year’s Convention, Our Journey – Restore. Refresh. Renew., will offer the everyday individual concerned with weight and health the latest evidence-based strategies to help them in their journey. The OAC’s Convention attracts more than 500 attendees from across the country and welcomes the country’s leading experts to deliver more than 40 educational topics, all designed to help the everyday individual in their journey toward improved weight and health.

“We know the journey of battling obesity is often a difficult one paved with many pitfalls. The OAC is proud to once again offer the Convention Scholarship Program, an initiative designed to help individuals attend Convention and receive access to the latest evidence-based information on weight, health and more,” said Michelle Vicari, OAC Convention Committee Chair.

In its first year, the Convention Scholarship Program received more than $100,000 in requested funds from individuals throughout the United States. “We were completely astonished in 2014 at the response we received to the program. We quickly realized that this was a tremendous public need, and we are very excited and proud to be able to offer this philanthropic program again this year,” said Joe Nadglowski, OAC President and CEO.

To learn more about the Convention Scholarship Program or complete an application today, please click here. If you are interested in donating to the Convention Scholarship Program, please click here. For more information on YWM2015, such as registration pricing, hotel details and more, please visit www.YWMConvention.com.

The Obesity Action Coalition (OAC), a nearly 50,000 member-strong National non-profit organization, is dedicated to improving the lives of individuals affected by the disease of obesity through education, advocacy and support.

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Besides What You See….

Ok, confession: I love musicals.

Like, obsessively, ridiculously love musicals.

Like, when I drive home at 5 am in the morning from my night shifts, I’ll turn off the radio and sing songs from Funny Girl or The Sound of Music, or Frozen to keep me entertained and awake.

My mom introduced me to The Sound of Music when I was about 5 years old, and it’s still one of my very favorite stories and musicals of all time!

This post was inspired by the song Maria sings:

“Strength doesn’t lie in numbers
Strength doesn’t lie in wealth
Strength lies in nights of peaceful slumbers
When you wake up — Wake Up!

It tells me all I trust I lead my heart to
All I trust becomes my own
I have confidence in confidence alone

I have confidence in confidence alone
Besides what you see I have confidence in me!”

I have always loved those lines, but as I learned to love myself over the years, it dawned on me how this little musical affirmation makes such a difference for me!

People remark on my confidence pretty frequently, and it always surprises me. In my ideal world, we would all be confident and ambitious people, who wake up ready to kick ass, and take names! “Can’t,” “won’t,” “shouldn’t” and other hesitant words would be abolished from our vocabularies, and we’d put our big girl (or boy) panties on and MAKE. THINGS. HAPPEN.

But, alas, we are only human. we aren’t sure if we can pull off a certain look, quit a job to chase our dreams, or maybe even make rent next month. The list goes on, and on!

I really value the fact that people see me as a strong, and confident person. I am those things. But rest assured, I have bad days, financial problems, personal struggles, and insecurities too! I tend to be more vulnerable and candid with these things, because I think it’s very important for people to know that someone with a past like mine-filled with emotional abuse, physical abuse, homelessness, and other various struggles- is surviving merely because of a choice. Maybe even because I live in a world that assumes those things will break me, or make me weak.

I am a LOT of things…but weak is generally only used to describe me when cookies are involved (no shame).

I genuinely believe that confidence is something I put on every day. It’s that coat of mascara to make you look a little more awake, or that statement necklace you use to punch up a basic ensemble. It’s the finishing touch to make you feel a little more…complete. And if you do this everyday, soon, it becomes second nature, and you find yourself walking taller, smiling at more strangers, and smiling to yourself because you feel wonderful.

Because you feel like a powerful, wonderful YOU.

Life has issued me many challenges, and I face more and more of them everyday. But knowing that you have those beautiful, strong qualities inside you makes it a bit better. Take a minute each day to “put your confidence on,” and I promise you’ll see some really positive changes. I am at the point now where I feel confident just because I wear matching bra and panty sets (thank you, OCD!).

You deserve to be treated like the amazing person you are. But you have to lead by example, and show the world what you deserve. It starts with you! And if it’s a corny
“Sound of Music” verse (or a Lil’ Wayne freestyle, which also works wonders for me, as well), then SO BE IT!

Sometimes, you just have to fake it until you make it. And that is perfectly fine, if it helps you build that confidence in yourself. Own it, rock it, and SHOW THEM HOW AMAZING YOU ARE!

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Photo: Bing Images

I’m always here in your corner. :)

‘Til Next Time! Have a great week!

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